Oh man…flirting. Something I was NEVER good at in high school. But it came so natural when I first got with my now husband. That doesn’t mean it still always comes natural. There are times when life gets in the way. But one thing we promised each other when we first got together was that we never wanted to stop trying in our relationship.
So often in today’s world, people get caught up in their day-to-day lives and it becomes so easy to just kind of let your relationship fall to the wayside. A lot of couples think that just because they are married, means they don’t have to try anymore. This couldn’t be further from the truth.
There was once a time when you two were madly in love with one another. Why? Because there was a spark. A spark that caught on fire because you took the time to nurture it. The key to a happy marriage is to never stop dating one another.
This one is my personal favorite way to flirt because it allows for A LOT of silliness. One of the things my husband and I enjoy most about being together is how much we laugh together. I say for this one, the cheesier you can make the pick-up lines, the better! Plus this is a fun and silly way to let your hubby know you’re thinking about him and you’re still into him.
I know for me, nothing makes my heart soar more than when my husband gives me an out of the blue kiss. To me, it’s like he’s telling me he loves me in one of the most sincere and beautiful ways. I’m not talking about giving goodbye kisses or good night kisses. Those are a given. I’m talking about when he’s doing something that you find sexy as hell or even something that just really makes you appreciate him. Just lean right in and give him a big smooch. I promise, he’ll be flattered.
Remember when you guys first started dating? The first time you held hands? Remember that warmth that spread throughout your whole body because you knew this person was falling for you? Believe me, holding hands has just as much of an effect, if not more later on down the road. It’s a way of still saying, “I’ve got you, Sweetheart.” No words need to be spoken.
Okay, this is rule #1 in the flirt handbook. EVERYONE likes being complimented! Especially guys! And I think oftentimes, the husband doesn’t hear these kind words often enough. Tell him how absolutely handsome he is or how much you love his smile. Or better yet, tell him how brave you think he is or how smart he is. Not all compliments have to be focused on appearances alone. Just be sure to be sincere.
This is another one of my favorite ways to flirt with my husband. Mostly because I don’t do it too often so these little notes are always special to him. And I know this because I’ll find them in his wallet or tucked into the visor in his car. Sometimes men just like to know that they are loved and appreciated. These little love notes don’t have to be anything special or profoundly poetic. Something as simple as, “I’m so glad you’re my husband” or “you make my heart smile” are plenty. I mean if you want to go all Shakespeare on him, then by all means! Or if you’re feeling more playful you could say something like, “I like your butt!”
One of the easiest ways to flirt, is to give someone your undivided attention. In this day and age, it is SO easy to get lost in our phones or on the computer or just zone out into the TV. And if you have children, it’s also easy to just zero in on them and leave your husband on the back burner. Make sure you are making time to pay attention to him as well. Listen to him when he tells you about his day or if he’s excited about something. Even if what he’s excited about is something like a new tool or car or something. If it’s important to him, it should be important to you. If you want to take it up a notch, really pay attention to things he talks about the most and educate yourself on them a little more while you’re away from each other so the next time you see him, you can contribute to the conversation. He will be so excited that you took the time to learn on your own.
So whether we are trying to be a flirt or not, this is a huge key to a happy relationship. You can’t always take things so seriously! Don’t be scared to make jokes or be goofy together. My favorite thing in the whole world is when my husband and I are totally alone and we get to be just the biggest dorks ever. And we’re laughing so hard that our stomachs hurt. Allow yourself to be silly and to feel like kids together again. I’m sure you can remember how much fun it was when you two first got together, right? I mean, if it wasn’t fun, you wouldn’t have kept dating, I’m sure! Let yourself feel young again. And if he tells you a joke, it doesn’t hurt to laugh at it. That’s really all he’s after anyways.
Flirting is all about having fun and letting your love know you care and are super into them! It’s so important to keep this going long after that honeymoon phase has ended. So try to remember some of these tips the next time you feel like that spark is dwindling!